| Location | Darlaston |
| Age | 46 years |
| Cause of Death | Cancer |
| Date of Birth | 08/06/1962 |
| Date of Death | 26/07/2008 |
| Visitors | 2,933 since 27/10/2008 |
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Jeff was a very special person. He was the most loving, caring person anyone could wish to meet.
We meet in 1982, I just knew I was going to marry him the moment I saw him. We were married on 10th December 1983. We had 2 daughters the first was born in 1985 the second in 1988 they were the apple of Jeffs eye. Both were born with problems and ended up in ITU for a while but both got over there problems and are now fine young women.
Jeff would have loved to have had a son but with the problems we had had with the girls we wouldnβt risk it. We have 2 beautiful grand daughters aged 4 and 18 months old Jeff loved both of them to distraction.
Jeff was always full of fun and loved to play jokes he never lost his sense of humour throughout his illness, he kept it right till the end.
Jeff was diagnosed with AML on 15th July 2007 I was devastated when the doc only gave him 24 hours to live. Having said that, I was also adamant that he would be ok, so 12 days later when he came out of ITU I was on cloud nine. They moved him to another hospital where the all the staff were fantastic. Jeff started his treatment of chemo. It never bothered him he was never sick with it, and always had a smile for everyone, in october i was told i had a leavel 1 breast cancer, i didnt know what to do. i kept it to my self and had radio therarapy every day for 3 weeks then i had 2 weeks of then 3 more weeks of radio.On the 1st December jeff was told he was in remission, we were both over the moon, a week later i had a scan and was told the i was cler jeff came out on the 10th December which was also our 24th wedding anniversary. I finally got round to tell jeff about me a week later, to say he was mad is an understatment, but he understod whey i had kept it to myself.
In February 2008 I went back to work full time and the AML came back and with avengement, so Jeff was back in hospital, he had 3 more courses of chemo each one a cocktail of 3 different types and all very strong, but it just wasnβt working, we found a trial drug and went for it. It looked to be working, and they had found a bone marrow match, all we had to do was wait.
On the 9th July his temp went up and he had an infection, he was moved to a side room, he looked ok but was not himself. On the 15th July I had a phone call (1 I had hoped would never come) from the hospital and told to get there as soon as poss. When I got there I was told the infection was bad and was resistant to most antibiotics they were going to give him some medication but they didnβt think he would last 24 hours. I just looked at the doctor and said βwe had this same conversation 12 months to the day last yearβ. 5 days later he was still with us but was very sick. I never left the hospital day or night.
On the Monday night Jeff looked at me and said take me home its time, I tried to reason with him but he was adamant about it, so on the Tuesday morning I asked the doctors about it they said it was not working and the infection had spread to his liver kidney and was now in his lungs. So we arranged to take him home. Every one was very helpful. And Jeff was back at home by the Wednesday evening.
Jeff was very upset by the time we got there but the nurse came in and gave him a very mild sedative, he was much calmer after, he chatted with my mom for a while. Later he was sitting up in bed and he looked at me, and asked me to hold his hand, I sat on the side of the bed and held his hand, he said βI love you very muchβ, I managed to say βI love you toβ. He fell a sleep just after. The nurses came in every day over the next 2 days to give him his pain relief, but he never really opened his eyes after Wednesday night, except on the Thursday eve when I kissed him good night and he opened his eyes and said im so sorry, I asked him what he was sorry about he said for leaving me, I said there was no need to be sorry, that was the last he said to me. He passed away on Saturday 26th July 2008.
On the 11th august 2008 my daughter gave birth to a boy, they have named him TJ after Jeff. he is now 10 weeks old and has spent most of his little life in hospital, he had trouble breathing when he was first born, so was kept in for 4 days, he came home on the thursday, only to be rushed back on the saturday, he had stopped breathing, it turned out he had bacterial menagitus, he is home now finaly he has to wear hearing aids and they are not sure if he can see at the moment we have to wait, but he is a sweet little soul, its just a shame jeff didnt get to see him first he would have been over the moon with him.
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the 10 december 2008.
my darling its 25 years to day that we got married i can not send u card as such so i send u this today our special day
I promised you my love
I promised you my heart
I promised you my life
I promised to always be there
I promised until the end
I promised to always love you
I promised we'd never be apart
I kept them all my darling
Except the last
But God needed you elsewhere
Now I promise that the love we had will never end
I promise our love will be my life forever
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ββββββββNot Forgotten
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ββββββββHeaven's Garden.x
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TODAY?
None of us know
how much time we have left.
But one thing is certain--
life is precious,
and we should make the most
of it every minute,
every day.
We should make each day
count for something,
whether we did something
we enjoyed,
moved closer to a dream,
learned something new,
or spent time with a
friend or loved one.
Did you make the most of
your life today?
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my brother my best friend
well jeff another christmas with out u an the pain is still as strong as the day u left we all an always will be..u must have been lonely on your own jeff so u came for our dad an ur darling grandson tj but my heart was broken the day they went away but i know u am all together now keeping each other safe an warm watching over all of we.i talk to u often jeff an i know u am laughing at me saying'look at the daft cow talking to her self' but u know im chatting to u an it makes me feel better to do it,one day i might get some answers to my questions,u am my best friend an i miss u so so much theres so much i need to tell u one day i will be able to.put ur arms round dad an tj jeff give them a big hug an tell them how much i love them look after each other.l love an miss u so so much my jeff sleep tight till we meet again. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
My uncle jeff its been couple of years now since we lost u but it still seems like yesterday the pain is still as bad as 3 yrs ago i miss u so so much an want to giv u a hug but i cant cus u not here with us , i will never ever forget u my unc luv u forever xxxx
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I promised you something
The day you were took away
I promised id be strong
And that id be ok
But the grief came and took me
To a world i did not know
Like a black tunnel
There was no where else to go
I wished i had gone with you
And be by your side
I was sure it was so much better
In heaven where you reside
I sat there alone one night
I sat thinking of you
I felt you so close
I could hear you whisper too
Pull yourself together
Dont you already know
That time will bring us together
Theres no need to feel so low
This is a beautiful place
But its not your time to be here
But when you are ready
I'l meet you dont your fear
I feel much happier now
Knowing one day i will see
My beloved angel in heaven
Together we will be
Copyright© Jayne Roddy
wish you where here
wish you where here
by Shawn Patrick Goerler
I wish you where here
Then I wouldn't feel alone
There was so many tear's shed
From day to day
There really not much I can say
Other then I wish you where here
You make my days bright
My days don't feel as cold
as they do now
My days are dark
With all the pain
I hold inside cause you are not here
I wish you where here so I can hold you
Know everything is alright
You are my love my life my
My everything
The one I dream of
The one I need for all time
I wish my one true love was here and that is you xxxxxxxxxxxx
True love never Die's
Through the windows of my eye's
I see you standing all alone
There's a tear in your eye's
I can see that you want to come home
I dont think you realize
Your now in heaven above
You look so lonely standing there
But dont worry, were here my love
As long as we can see you
Through the windows of our eye's
I promise you our sweet Angel
True love will never die.
Copyright© Sharon Wheeler.
I long for you my distant heart, rueing each mile that keeps us apart.
My gems, my spoils, my most sought prize lies in your touch
and in your eyes.
And the only thing that appeases me are thoughts of you and what will be.
For the season ahead promises fair weather where our loving hearts reside together.
And I can bear this yearning and sorrow when your heart's with mine on the breast of tomorrow.
Until then I'll keep these dreams of you warm in a heart that's
loyal and true.
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Christmas In Heaven
I see the countless Christmas trees around the world below with tiny lights like heaven's stars reflecting on the snow.
The sight is so spectacular please wipe away that tear for I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
I hear the many Christmas songs that people hold so dear but the sounds of music can't compare with the Christmas choir up here.
I have no words to tell you of the joy their voices bring for it is beyond description to hear the angels sing.
I know how much you miss me, I see the pain inside your heart for I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
I can't tell you of the splendor or the peace here in this place Can you just imagine Christmas with our Savior face to face?
I'll ask him to lift your spirit as I tell you of your love so then pray for one another as you lift your eyes above.
Please let your hearts be joyful and let your spirit sing for I am spending Christmas in heaven and I'm walking with the King.
Wanda Bencke
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_______________Merry Christmas
______________And Also, A Happy
_____________New Year To You For
____________2010... I Hope The New
___________Year Brings You Loads Of
__________Happiness And Lots Of Fun.
_________I Hope You Have A Nice Day On
________Christmas Day, Filled With Lots Of
_______Angel Time.......And Of Course Eating
______Lots Of Nice Foods, And Candies. I Hope
_____That Santa Is Good To You As Well And He
___Brings You Loads Of Presents On Christmas Day
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*♥* Lights are twinkling on the tree
*♥* Shining bright for all to see
*♥* But....
*♥* If you look up to the sky above
*♥* All the stars shine brighter
*♥* That’s
*♥* Our angels
*♥* Sending us all their love
~With Christmas around the corner its a pretty hectic time for me so i'm dropping in now to thank you for all your wonderful support this year, words cannot express how much your love & kindness means to myself and Ryan.
Wishing you and your family a very merry christmas, and all the best for 2010... I hope you have a good one!
Love as always to you, your family and your precious angel.
Jenna, Ryan, Issac & family xxx
The Sheaf Of Wheat...A Symbol Of Christian Faith
The seeds of faith are sown
in the human personality and grow
into the mature faith of the Christian
man or woman. The sown seed
must lose its life in order that it may develop
and grow and multiply. So, symbolically,
a sheaf of wheat is used by Christians
to mark the passing of a fellow Christian.
Death is not the end
but the beginning of life eternal.
the mature grain in the sheaf
Is the direct symbol of the Resurrection....
the life beyond the grave,
the fulfillment of the Promises.
- Author Unknown
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